For just over 12 years I have had the privilege of knowing, and the pleasure of loving, a very kind and wonderful woman – my husband’s mom. Since our son arrived on the scene we’ve called her Bunia (short for Babunia). At just over 90 she has been in palliative care for the last few months with her health gradually declining. Walter went today and within an hour of his visit, she left this world for whatever is next.
I truly believe she was waiting for her “Vlady” to visit – so she could hug him and say ‘love you more’ – an expression both Walter’s parents would say as we departed or signed off a phone call. The love and acceptance this woman had for her family was endless. She welcomed me into their home from the very first day and we never looked back.
Bunia with 3 week old Gregory
I have fond memories with one in particular – the day we brought our son to visit his grandmother at 3 weeks old. She held her grandson, looked up at her 54 year old son and said “Vlady…you have a son!” (picture the godfather kind of thing going on – but with a Ukrainian accent).
One of the ‘traditions’ of visiting Walter’s parents was to eat and then pack up the left overs so she could give us a care package. We encouraged her not to cook and suggested we go to the Chinese buffet (they were regulars there – especially on holidays!) and then we would adjourn back at their place for a proper visit. What I found humorous, after having eaten at the restaurant…we somehow still managed to be sent home with a care package full of food.
Carolynn, Bunia and almost 2 year old Gregory – Mothers day – in front of the ‘forget me nots’ Walter brought home to his mom 50 years prior
When Gregory was young, she started giving him a bag of chocolate to take home with him – something every good grandparent loves to do. I explained to Bunia that Gregory does not do well with the caffeine in chocolate – so she started sending him home with a bag of fruit. One time, I seem to recall he was about 2, the bag was as big as him – and he proudly carried/dragged it to the car.
I will miss this kind and loving woman. I take comfort though in knowing today she is no longer in pain and for that I am most grateful.
Bunia – We love you more!
The only video I have of Bunia is when she, Dito and Vlady (Walter) are singing to Gregory (not yet born) a Ukrainian song Walter hummed to Gregory throughout our pregnancy. These three are so cute!
What a treasure of memories. She sounds like a highest example of Kindness. Bless her next journey .
Yes Lyd – truly the highest form of kindness indeed.
Bunia gave you one of the greatest gifts one can ever give to another: the experience of being totally loved and accepted, of being home. Heaven’s gain is not your loss, for love such as that transcends time and space.
Wow! Thank you – such beautiful words and so aptly true for our loved mother
What a beautiful testament to a dearly loved wife, mother, grandmother and mother-in-law. Hugs to you Carolynn and Walter xxxx
So appreciate your comments and thank you so much for the hugs!
Carolynn –
Such a touching remembrance of a beautiful woman. You, Walter, Gregory, and Mr. Sokil will no doubt miss basking in the sunshine of her love. I wish you fond memories of a beautiful life, assurances of a joyous reunion, and comfort in this moment of loss.
We are blessed to know you during this time and are grateful for such kind words. Gracias.