Right now both of Walter’s parents (90 and 92) and my mom (85) are not in the best of health. Walter’s mom caught pneumonia and was hospitalized. She was determined to go home and the hospital allowed her to do so. Within a few days she was back, this time at a different hospital, and now has ‘double’ pneumonia (affecting both lungs). She is the worse I’ve ever seen her.
Please allow me to explain something about my mother-in-law. She is one of the feisty-est elderly persons I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. When I married into this family over 10 years ago, she commented “Now Vlady is married, I can die.“ Supposedly she has been waiting to die for over 20 years. They have paid for the plot, the ceremony and the stone is already partially engraved. The only thing which changes is the burial outfit as the seasons keep changing on her. Since the family do not wish to loose her, they have been telling her to wait till something else transpires before she can leave us. So I joined in on the plan and said “You need to wait till we have a child.” Our son turned 9 in the summer. Since his birth we’ve been using that she needs to wait to see him grow up!
So fast forward to this week. She is in the hospital and is refusing to eat, drink or take her medication. She explained to Walter that she had a dream and they (the hospital staff) are trying to poison her. She won’t take what they offer her…because she does not want to die.
Hmmm…I believe this is what we can refer to as irony. We think we want something until it faces us and then we decide that it is not what we wanted. The observation: Every day is precious. We must embrace it to it’s fullest. We cannot plan our departure but if somehow it is today, let it be that we have no regrets.