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Within the Known – DoWoo #257/365

Learned a HUGE lesson between yesterday’s actions and today’s observations.  When you are sorting for packing versus packing to store versus giving away – remember to leave stuff out for the interim.  

Gregory was getting ready for school today and there were no underwear, socks, any outside clothes left in his room – only PJs.  I had to sort through the give away pile as well as the packing pile until we found clothes he could wear today (high of 14 degrees Celsius). I then realized I had not left anything out for myself.

So…lesson learned. Have a 4th pile within your 3 step process – otherwise you may wind up with no choices whatsoever.  

Tomorrow is our 2nd and last ever garage sale here. I believe we’ve had a garage sale every year since I was pregnant with Gregory – so 10 years now!  It is a huge amount of work but so much fun.   Our bedroom set is being picked up (sold months ago) and tomorrow night we’ll be camping on the floor mat. It’s becoming real.  And the most wonderful things is that I’m smiling as I type this.  We’re in the last stages of this chapter and I’m starting to truly feel the excitement of this next chapter….the unknown within the known.

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Empty = Full – DoWoo #245/365

Realized I have done quite a bit of DoWoo-ing regarding our divesting of our material possessions but today it truly hit home. Empty space can actually result in a feeling of fullness.

fullBetween the stuff stored in the crawl space, the bins and boxes of stuff for the garage sale which filled the main living room, the massive furniture stored in the basement, the couches and table and a bedroom set – all are gone within the last few days.  In walking through the spaces which are even more bare than when we staged them…I saw the emptiness and yet felt filled with the promise of our dream coming to fruition.

I am pleased our “things” have moved on to other places – spaces which I hope will benefit from the joy of the having. It feels good to share. It feels amazing to release.  It feels phenomenal to know this is all part of our journey.

Scenery or People – DoWoo #235/365

One of the things I found interesting today was the process of going through photos albums. Exploring and revisiting what I found important at certain times of my life – capturing moments – places – people – events.  

photo albumI went through 6 photo albums – pulling out memories from when I was with my (practice) husband.  Getting engaged, our first apartment together, our new furniture, our adopted kitten and how well she got along with our previous cat (not!), our next move, our honeymoon across the East coast provinces of Canada, the first time I saw an ocean, the house we lived in when I was born, our puppy, renovations in our first house, our trip out to the West coast – across the rest of the Canadian provinces, my first glimpse of mountains, the Pacific ocean, our trip to Drumheller where I saw a T-Rex skeleton up close and personal, bought a fossil, a full moon in the Rocky Mountains, a black bear on the side of the road, West Edmonton Mall, going down the luge run at Calgary’s Olympic Park….. 

As I pulled, I sorted into 3 piles: keep, pass over to my ex, or toss.  

Harbour-upI recall one of my siblings commenting on my photo albums maybe 20+ years ago…asking me why there were so many pictures without people.  Her photo albums were filled with photos of places and events but most included someone in the picture.  I seem to recall it had something to do with marking the point in time with the person along with the place or the event.  I had answered her that I preferred just the scenery – that I was an artist looking for the artistic shot. 

Having gone through this exercise today I realized the photos I kept were mostly those which included people.  The majority of those I tossed were of scenery.  

Hmmm…she may have been onto something.  

Messages – DoWoo #228/365

51yRKGXt7mL._SL500_AA300_PIaudible,BottomRight,13,73_AA300_Lately I’ve been going to sleep listening to Spiritual Healing by Glenn Harrold: A Guided Meditation to Heal your Mind. It’s been an interesting ride listening to this recording but what I heard (observed) through my absorption of his words the last few nights..this is what I want to share. 

“Within this energy field there could be blockages and imprints that hold you back and prevent you from reaching your potential. Repetitive behavioural patterns that you find hard to shake are often caused by blocks in your energy field…and when you heal yourself spiritually, it will naturally follow you will heal yourself physically and emotionally.” 

What I “heard” is that it is not our physical body or emotional which needs to listen – it is our spiritual being – or energetic self.  This part of us needs to listen.  We need to be open. We need to be able to understand what is being shared at a cellular level. If we are “blocked”, how can we do any of these things?

Years ago I had a bit of an “aha” where I recognized most of what I was reading had the same message.  It was wrapped up differently, had different analogies or examples, but ultimately the final message was the same. 

got itShortly thereafter I had a vision of those who “got it” (whatever “it” was). They were tuned into and listening to one radio station while I was listening to another.  They understood what it took to get to where they were (I just had to reach out and turn the tuning dial) BUT they were unable to show us. We had to figure it out on our own.  I saw them cheering us on, encouraging us to keep going, keep trying, so that eventually we could join them in their understanding. 

Recently I keep having thoughts along the same concept. This time though they are not standing on a different plane of existence, they are right here beside me, beside you. They still cannot show us.  They can though do their best to explain it to us.  The challenge…and this is where I believe so many of us may get stuck…is that they can only explain it in THEIR own words, from their perspective AND not everyone is going to understand it that way.  

messagedTHIS is why it’s the same message from so many different people. Different books. Different techniques on helping us become aware. Different wrappings and presentations. BUT the bottom line IT is the SAME message. 

I imagine it is like learning a different language.  The intent to communicate to us is clear, just the words don’t make much sense.  Now, we may be able to figure out the gist of “it” but until we totally tune in, truly understand the words, we are not able to grasp what is being shared. 

What do YOU think the message is? 

Life Growth Is Like Driving Shift – DoWoo #226/365

I have a collection of books on my phone which allow me to tap into pretty amazing observations. Sometimes I just need to read the positive and encouraging words of Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Og Mandino, Mike Dooley, James Allen, John Maxwell, Napoleon Hill…need I say more?  The last few days I have taken to re-reading Your Erroneous Zones by Wayne Dyer. This is what I read today:

drive-a-stick-shift“Think back to the time you were learning to drive a stick shift automobile. you were faced with what seemed to be an insurmountable problem. Three pedals but only two feet to make them work.  You first became aware of the complexity of the task. Let the clutch out slow, oops too fast, jerky business, gas pedal down at the same rate as you release the clutch, right foot for the brake, but the clutch must go in, or you jerk again.  A million mental signals: always thinking, using your brain. What do I do? Awareness, and then after thousands of trials, mistakes, new efforts, the day comes when you step into your car and drive away. No stalling, no jerking and no thinking. Driving a stick shift has become second nature, and how did you do it? With great difficulty. Lots of present-moment thinking, reminding, working.”

1984I remember learning stick.  I dated a fellow who let me shift from the passenger side while he worked the clutch – allowing me to get a feel for the concept first. My very first car was standard – a 1984 VW Rabbit. I sat in it and instantly fell in love – this car was mine. I then turned the keys over to the same young man and he test drove it. After I handed over the cash, he drove the car home so he could then teach me how to drive it.  I remember stalling out numerous times before I finally got the car moving in first gear, then driving blocks without shifting out of first for fear of stalling out.   Now…it’s just like Wayne says…effortless, without thinking about it. but it took a lot of mental work to get to this space.

This analogy was noted after Wayne explained that Happiness is a natural condition of being a person. and that New thinking requires awareness of old thinking. You have become habituated in mental patterns that identify the causes of your feelings as outside of yourself. You have put in thousands of hours of reinforcement for such thinking, and your’ll need to balance the scale with thousands of hours of new thinking, thinking that assumes responsibility for your own feelings.”

WOW! Did you get all that?

To break it down into what I understand: I am totally responsible for all my thoughts, my actions and my feelings, and therefore anything which is going on around me…I am responsible for it.  AND if I wish to change it, it may be uncomfortable, challenging, appear awkward, and take numerous attempts, even failed or stalled attempts…but if I persist – and embrace that I am also responsible for my sticktuitiveness – I have an immense opportunity to exceed at my life.

AND that ability is within me right now!  It is also with you! 

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How powerful is that?

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Og, Wiki & Wayne Dyer – DoWoo #219/365

“Failure will never overtake you if your determination to succeed is strong enough.” – Og Mandino. 

This quote went along with the story of one lone sparrow being courageous enough to come inside while thousands of his kind remained outside. After the bird was fed he seemed to have disappeared through lattice openings which appeared almost impossible to have entered. 

Every day we are given hours of continuous moments where we can be courageous.  

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What is courage? 

Wiki defines courage as: the ability and willingness to confront fear, pain, danger, uncertainty, or intimidation. 

Interesting…I had not put these two things together…that is until NOW.

Wait for it….

“Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

This is a quote Walter shared with me early on in our relationship.  He said this book had saved his life after he and his first (practice) wife divorced. He even went so far as to purchase a case of the books and hand one to anyone in his life who was struggling.  I can only imagine the legacy both Wayne and Walter left in their wake. 

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When I think of this specific definition of love, I typically concentrated on the part where this is a challenging way to live – rewarding yes! – but a challenge to embrace to the degree which I believe you needed to…in order to truly live it. I am in awe of how well Walter does this and aspire to embrace it as well as he has. 

Now however, I realize the connection…having written of this evening’s combination of quotes:

Love is Courage!  Courage is Love! 

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Get ‘er DONE! – DoWoo #218/365

Dale-Carnegie-GQ-12May14_rex_b“I know someone in a rut.   And they’re going to stay in a rut. Why?  I’ll tell you why!!! Simply because they don’t use their abilities to get things done!” 

I recall having recited these words, loudly, during a Dale Carnegie class about 15 years ago. I recall what transpired in my life because of these words – a huge shift in who I was spending my time with and I got things done! 

When I sat down at my computer this evening, for the 4th time in a week I said to myself “I don’t know what to DoWoo about.”  This evening when Walter came in the office, he asked me “Are you inspired?” to which I answered “not yet” then BAM!! That was it.  Lack of inspiration. 

You may wonder…why does that excite me?  

The fact that I am experiencing a lack of inspiring observations to share has me wondering what I am doing to result in such lack.  If my world without is a reflection of my world within, this could translate into my inner self taking a bit of a siesta when it comes to getting stuff done!   If I ensure that every day I do one small thing to move me forward…then guess what?  I move forward. 

fallingI realize this is what I have done off an on over the last few years – falling back into the stuff that needs to be done but not the stuff that I want to get done to move my dream forward.  Hence, my putting my foot down back on DoWoo #101.  I observe I’ve done it again. 

NO MORE!! 

I have a count down clock here for a reason.  There is a long list of things which need to be done to successfully depart for our adventure in just over 2 months. This requires a plan of action – documented – and implemented.  

DONE!
I’m getting ‘er done! 

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If you change how you look at things – the things you look at change! – Wayne Dyer

Do you realize the choice is TOTALLY up to you?

NOT a Democracy – DoWoo #202/365

I have struggled in the past about what a Mastermind is and how my participation comes into play. In theory it is one or more people acting together, in harmony, to move one persons vision forward.  What I had forgotten was…it wasn’t about me! LOL

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When we are working with someone else’s vision, and we truly wish to help them get to where they wish to go…it really has nothing to do with any individual other than the one person whose vision we are working on. 

In order to help others (one of my personal pivotal needs) I need to move out of my own way!  

not a democracyOnce I stepped back and reminded myself it was about their dream…their vision…well, everything made sense.  It is not a democracy where people vote and the majority rules.  It is a forum to share ideas, discuss possible actions to be taken, it may even be an arena where everyone has been given the opportunity to voice their opinion, or complete certain actions as designated – BUT ultimately it is the one person whose vision we are ‘masterminding’ on that has the final say regarding the direction he/she wishes to take.  

One of my dreams is to inspire others to reach their dreams.  I observed today that it does not mean my dream has to come to fruition in order for me to inspire; although that can still be a viable catalyst.  I realize…I can mastermind with someone to help move their vision forward and by doing so, my actions unto themselves may be inspiration enough. 

 

Serendipity – DoWoo# 201/365

serendipity-2 (1)When considering words which would describe the events of the last 36 hours – all I can come up with is “Serendipity”. I want to share this experience but I am unsure whether I would be able to do it justice. However, I will endeavour to do my best; which is all any of us can do.

Having worked for some time now, towards my understanding of our world and my place in it, I recognize there are laws which govern how life unfolds.  The same way my body is a complex vessel for my spirit to experience life, this world has a complex ebb and flow which allows us all to experience it together.  Our inter-connectivity is in fact as much of a requirement to the world as our breathing is to our body.  Affected by everything else going on around us and yet it moves along with governing aspects which work without conscious requirements. 

abc8599f4460b5be63add620a95e1e74God has a plan. After having a discussion about the game of chess this evening, I imagine that for God’s implementation of the numerous actions which transpire daily – he has the largest chess board ever.  Each of us are a player in the game. We are here to interact with others in a way to move the ‘game’ of life forward. And we move in, around, and over others’ boards – connecting with others as God intends.

The buyer of our home and I have connected based upon a thought / a feeling / a desire we envisioned over a year ago.  It turns out we have run similar routes even if we were experiencing them at different times.  We recognize there is a connection – in a way which has no time frame – it is now.

savourWhat I observed today is a glimpse of the myriad of steps which led us to this moment.  In sitting down this evening with the intent to explain that glimpse, the inter-connectivity we unveiled – I found words escaped me.  

Instead I chose to savour this space – allow it to unfold as it is meant to – rather than dwell on it. I am in the same wonderful space as last evening when I tweeted “Every time I say WOW, I am savouring it, rather than dwelling on it.”

 

 

God’s Hand – DoWoo #200/365

A pivotal number for a pivotal day.  I saw God’s hand in how this evening unfolded.  I am reminded of an earlier post when we commenced this year’s Master Key; when I considered God feeling exuberance beyond anything I could possibly conceive – to be holding all our dreams in His vision. I wrote:

Universe_in_handThe juggling and multi-tasking which must go on at that higher level to listen, truly listen to all of us. To what we desire, what we hope for, where we aspire to be.  And as long as God deems it does not take away anyone’s good, we are granted the path to our dream. We need to be clear, concise and heartfelt.  Then we must be patient and open to the path given to us.  The path may not always be clear, and most likely nothing like we imagine it, but God has computed all the possible permutations and shown us the path, most beneficial to all, for our dream to come to fruition. 

I bore witness to, and was hugged by, one of Gods blessings this evening.  I met the beautiful young woman of the couple who purchased our home.  In sharing our experiences, which brought us to this day, we recounting our interaction with God and his plan to bring us together. When you hear how things were meant to be…you can do nothing but embrace the reality of it all – God truly does have a plan!  

Why have I chosen to fight challenges I am given? Why have I chosen to second guess what transpires?

I must choose to embrace my path knowing, truly knowing, that I am exactly where I am meant to be in order to truly appreciate all those permutations God calculated to create the magnificence He has in store for me – for us.  

If I had any doubt in my mind, prior to this evening, it is obliterated.  The only thing left to say is Thank You, God! 

Accept, Courage, Wisdom – DoWoo #190/365

O God, give us the serenity to accept what cannot be changed,
The courage to change what can be changed,
and the wisdom to know the one from the other. 

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Although slightly different from the common version, most of us may recognize the above verse as the prayer adopted by AA and other twelve-step programs.  As per Wiki – The Serenity Prayer is the common name for a prayer authored by the American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr (1892–1971). 

While I am grateful for AA and how it has impacted those I care for, when Walter reminded me of it this evening – I had to stop and think…

OMG!
I should be reciting this about everything every single day!

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Then I found the following on Wiki – a longer version which I had not heard before: 

God, give me grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the Wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.
Amen.

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Was getting ready to leave the home this afternoon – to allow the buyer a few hours to conduct their home inspection. During preparation I needed to grab a bin from the basement crawl space. When I went down I found water coming in! The home inspector and buyer were due to arrive in 2 hours.   The only time this spot had ever leaked was shortly after having moved in – 13 years ago – and the down spout had disconnected – so no longer draining water away from the house.  I repaired it and then later we updated the eves-troughs and downspouts – not experiencing any further water infiltration. That is…until today! 

I immediately ran outside – to find the down spout covered in snow, the snow on the roof melting rapidly into the drain – but no where for it to go.   I dug down to find the end of the extension which takes it away from the house to be buried under 2″ of ice. I applied salt and Walter dug a trench. No further water came in the house.  

images (30)I cannot change that this happened.  I accepted.  I had courage and the reflexes to do what I could to address the challenge. The wisdom to know the difference came into play when we chose to call the agent and inform the buyers team what had transpired before they arrived.  We were upfront and honest.  What the buyer chooses to do with this information remains to be advised. If this day could be considered a hardship, I accept it as a pathway to peace.  I can sleep this evening knowing we did what was right.    I leave the rest in God’s (very capable) hands!

Be Sociable – DoWoo #182/365

il_340x270.182345903This weekend I observed an amazing group of women who bonded, for what could be life long friendships, within only a short few days.  I wonder…would a small group of men have had the same results as we did?   My curiosity typically gets the best of me…I will look into further and see what I find.

We had a variety of speakers – energy healers, intuitives, motivational speakers, life coaches, digital and branding gurus (just to name a few).   There were 8 sessions per day for 2 full days.  Absolutely AMAZING!

Upon reflection this evening, what I found interesting were the 3 speakers who came in without having been there for the entire session…They appeared to have varying degrees of impact on the group. 

1 speaker came in moments before her presentation and left immediately afterwards.  While her presentation was good, and there was audience participation, the energy in the room needed to be shifted before we could continue with the next speaker – the intuitive.

Another speaker came in for a small part of the sessions, spoke, stayed for a bit afterwards and then left.  This appeared to be more readily appreciated.  She chatted with a few of the people in the room before and after her presentation.

The 3rd speaker, arrived just before her session but was able to have a few minutes to chat with people during the short break between presentations.  Her interaction was a bit different as she knew a number of the participants from other events or on a personal / business level.   At the commencement of her talk she explained her son was ill and she had stayed home to care for him – hence why she was unable to be her in person for the 2 days. She also added having watched remotely from home. This person then proceeded to weave a few points from some of the previous speakers into her presentation.

While this appeared to be the most readily accepted version of the 3 ladies I’m referencing, I cannot say whether the others participants had the same observations – these are strictly from my perspective.  I am commenting based upon the energy level and shifts I felt during and after each presentation.

be sociableMy takeaway?  If you wish to truly connect and impact your audience – as the Social Media Strategist, Stacy Maynard commented about her field of expertise – you must “be sociable“.  

The less social interaction with the group the less impact the speaker appeared to have had on the group.  

It’s My Fault – DoWoo #173/365

download (9) 03fdb8341674096332603a507d429591It’s all my fault – really – LOL!  At minimum I am 100% responsible. Can you imagine that?  I’m taking responsibility for my thoughts and my reality.  That’s what we learn in the Master Key. If everything I think about grows, and what I think about becomes real, then I control what happens to me. I create my destiny.

I love it when people say “I told you so.” because they are right! When I was one of these people, I would imagine the worst and when it happened, I would say those dreaded 4 words to whoever I told of my imaginations.  What I found out though was it was all about what I thought. Somehow. Sometime. Somewhere. This was a thought which manifested itself into reality.

Walter and I have known we were moving to Costa Rica for the last 8 years.  However, since we seriously put it out there, set a date, commenced what needed to be done to actually drive this forward…we meet new people daily who have been there, know people who’ve been there, know someone with a villa, a cottage, a business, who retired there, has family there….

Do you get what I’m saying?  

Everything falls into place for those who do the leg work.  The adage “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” ― Seneca.    The legwork is what we learn within the Master Key Experience.  

I remember driving downtown Toronto for business each morning and once you get onto the Gardiner Expressway Eastbound before Spadina, there was an Inglis sign which had a new quote or saying each day.  I distinctly remember “Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation leans on the doorbell. – Unknown

Temptation does not get me anywhere because it’s still leaning on the doorbell – which means no one has answered the door.   I’m not waiting for opportunity to knock – that would be like waiting for the lottery.

I am creating my opportunity which is creating my reality.
And I must say…I’m having a blast!

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Neutral to Maximum – DoWoo #166/365

This it the text I sent our real estate agent and his reply:

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WHY?? 

In case you missed the chaos, you can read about it here.   After 6 out of the last 7 days with painters in our house, the last few weeks filled with furniture rearranged or removed; with all our artwork and personal decor taken off the walls and stored, with all our “personality” dismantled room by room, altering our home to what could be considered (for the most part) “neutral”, one of the mantras I consistently said to myself was: ‘This is no longer our home. This is someone else’s home.’

I’ve counselled transferring employees one must always remember which side of the table you are sitting on – especially when dealing with real estate.

buy-sellWhen you are a buyer you are typically shrewd, you do your research, you pick apart anything which may not be to your liking in order to negotiate the value downwards.  However, when you are on the opposite side of the table to the buyer, it is more typical for you as the seller to point out all the things which you found beneficial about your home, draw attention to those aspects which may have been time consuming to create, or financially dear to install or update, seeing everything through the eyes of an owner, all with the intent to negotiate the value upwards.  

When I stopped and really listened to myself, the experience I had gained, through almost a 1/2 a century of my mom’s real estate career and my own in relocation, I realized I had almost fallen into the same trap which most homeowners do.  

In what I can only estimate to be a good portion, if not the majority, of real estate transactions the seller usually does themselves a disservice.  Why? Because the seller has let their personal perspective and taste get in the way of being objective and real about the product they now wish to sell.   

productAND that my friends is the key word here…”product”.   It is no longer my home.  It is a house. As a seller I now need to remove my personal feelings and adjust to what the market wants. 

Imagine…a homeowner who steps back and chooses to review their property through the eyes of a buyer.  If a seller can see this, truly see what their local buyers are looking for, they can then adjust their product to suit the majority of the potential buyers thereby increasing the value of their house. 

When I looked around my house today and thought “If we weren’t moving to Costa Rica, I would want to stay in this house”, I realized we were on our way to offering a product which may appeal to a maximum number of buyer.  It had almost nothing of our “personality” but I could see myself living here.  

I will wrap it up with the analogy Walter used – in neutralizing the decor, removing our personality, we have created a blank canvas which is inviting, allowing the buyer to be able to “picture” themselves living here. 

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A Picture Is Worth One Word – DoWoo #156/365

If you’ve followed me for a bit you may have read that I sometimes sit down at the end of the day and have no idea what to write about and then something strikes.  I allow knowing it will come and I’m exceedingly grateful each time when it does.    Tonight I had 2 mini thoughts to share and then received the pièce de résistance.

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What ONE word would you attach to this photo?

Walter had been gone all day to help out his dad with a few things.  I kicked my organizational ass into high gear and put all the stuff into the crawl space that I packed the last few days. Then I packed another 8 boxes and cleared out the majority of our kitchen – with most of the stuff not going with us.  Walter arrived home in time for supper. Afterwards he went to the cupboard looking for a particular bowl for desert and it was not there.  I explained that I had packed it.  He was surprised saying we use them all the time.

I responded that since I figure they were most likely not going with us to Costa Rica, we should get used to not having it now.  He thought this was quite humorous.    I’m still trying to figure out why.  Walter explained that this was a very round about way to get from point A to B.  I see it as a straight line but hey…those are based upon my synaptic thingies not his.  

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What ONE word would you attach to this photo?

Then we were chatting by the fire when I told him about going to check out the local funeral home (as I was asked to for mum for comparison purposes). I explained it was nice enough but I found the decor overwhelmingly neutral.  Walter smiled quite loudly and said this was up there ‘positively negative’.   Do you think this could be the next big real estate term??  

Now for the final inspiration for today’s musings. Walter was sent home with some memorabilia from his dad. There was a 46 year old photo album filled with pictures from his parents wedding renewal on their 25th anniversary. So his parents at an age just slightly younger than us.   He particular liked the picture of them dancing which supposedly was a rare opportunity. I however, saw this picture and immediately saw love.

They say (there’s that ‘they’ again – they certainly do get around!) that a picture is worth a thousand words.  I say the right picture can be worth one word.  In this particular case: LOVE. 

I saw the same look on both of Walter’s parents faces that I have seen when Walter looks at me. LOVE. 

Can you see it? 

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Learned Behaviour or Inherent? – DoWoo #155/365

We talk about looking at things differently in the Master Key. We talk about observing without having opinions. We also talk about rearranging the furniture.  

bedroom_furnitureWhy DO we do that? 

There is a point in the class where we are asked to display 4 key aspects of our DMP – our Definite Major Purpose – around our home; regular letter sized paper, 6 to 8 copies (depending on whether you work from home or not) and each has 4 large coloured shapes displayed with key aspects of your DMP written within the shapes.  

shapesThen every few weeks we are asked to “rearrange the furniture” – sometimes the pages are moved within the house, sometimes the shapes are missing writing and sometimes the shapes change between portrait and landscape. We are coached that our subby (the subconscious) will recognize the changes and will sit up and pay attention.

My son recognized this today but not about the shapes.  This morning I removed 3 framed photos from the walls down the short flight of stairs between the main 2 floors – there are only 5 steps so the walls are not that long.  First he said the house looked plain without the pictures. Then this evening he said when he walked down the stairs he felt he was in someone else’s house even though he knew he was in ours.   

A slight change to your environment can stimulate your brain to sit up and take notice of the change.  However, what I found exciting was our little man recognized / observed this and then was able to articulate it to us.  What is also interesting is he “felt” the change and identified it as not ours. 

tumblr_n0e77gInWf1sh9tc7o5_500I wonder whether this is learned behaviour or inherent to us as human beings?  Are we geared to be attached to our decorative items so that when one is moved or removed, it triggers a feeling of change or loss?  Or are we geared to just recognize change from a survival perspective?  What other options are there? 

I observe ‘rearranging the furniture’ does have a certain trigger to our subconscious…the great news is the Master Key class teaches us how to use this brain-game to our advantage in order to move ourselves towards our purpose.  Imagine teaching yourself to maximize this inner aspect to reach your goals, your desires, your dream!

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Hormones or Age? – DoWoo#150/365

I observed today that when one is focused on getting something done, one can accomplish a lot.  However, when one is not as focused, or possibly experiencing some after effects of the grieving process, then one’s ability to function at their full speed may be affected. 

I remember when I was about half way through my pregnancy,  one of the HR trainers came down to talk to me about the new people we had hired for my team, they spoke to me for about 10 minutes…I was paying attention – truly I was – but then as she was leaving she commented she would send me a note about what we spoke about. She later explained to me that she could see it going right through me – hence why she sent me the note.

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I too found a difference in my ability to retain information. Prior to pregnancy I was one of those people who could remember what someone said and who was in the room from a year ago. I was organized. I was efficient. But once I was pregnant all that seemed to seep out of me…I ended up with notes to remind myself on basically everything. 

I still make lists.  I set reminders. I even have alarms for my reminders. I understood why this was happening when it was hormonal but now….Is this age?  Anyone have an answer to that?  Anyone?

So…back to operating at less than full speed…one of my siblings sent a set of snap shots of posters from the hospice where our mom is currently.  One of them was “The Grieving Person’s Bill of Rights“.  What a timely tool.  A few things which stood out for me. 

beauty girl cryYou have the right to experience your own unique grief. No one else will grieve in exactly the same way you do.  In Scroll IV OG says “None that came before, none that live today, and none that come tomorrow can walk and talk and move and think (and grieve) exactly like me.”

You have the right to feel a multitude of emotions. Confusion, disorientation, fear, guilt and relief are just a few of the emotions you might feel as part of your grief journey.  And You have the right to be tolerant of your physical and emotional limits. Your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you feeling fatigued.  Respect what your body and mind are telling you.

Finally ending with Remember, grief is a process, not an event. Be patient and tolerant with yourself.

Remember back to Kindness week I observed (or was it an opinion?) along with being kind to others, we must remember to be kind to ourselves.  This includes being patient and tolerant with ourselves too.  Maybe this is why I am challenged with being patient and tolerant of others…I’m not patient and tolerant with myself. Hmmm….more things to consider. 

Oy! Positively Negative – DoWoo #148/365

“I give myself permission to say and do what I believe to be true without second guessing and self reassessment.”

F00B362B-7B4B-4D7B-BB3F133348747762Up until today my perspective on funerals has been mostly negative…a bunch of hooey and ceremony…and the person is gone already…what was the point? I vowed none of this traditional crap was going to happen when I’m gone. If you want to party and tell stories great! But other than that, don’t bother. I never understood why people would stand around and cry and talk about missing the person? Why everyone says they are sorry for our loss (yesterday’s DoWoo)? Why we don’t just celebrate their life instead?

I was missing a piece of the puzzle.  

e517c136f17680613c2d60c1271718dcWhat I observed today, and over the last few days, were some interesting rituals we put ourselves through when someone we love dies.  I’m still reflecting and digesting everything. I’m fairly certain it will be different when it is my mom rather than Walters…so this may require a bit more time before everything has been fully assimilated. For the most part though… what I recognized for myself was this is not about them…what we do…it is all for us.  I’m sure we’ve all heard this before…that funerals are for the living – giving us an opportunity to grieve and say goodbye to our loved ones.  But WHY?  

I did not get it until today. 

memory-memorial-quote-life-celebrationfuneral is a ceremony for celebrating, respecting, sanctifying, or remembering the life of a person who has died. Funerary customs comprise the complex of beliefs and practices used by a culture to remember the dead, from interment itself, to various monuments, prayers, and rituals undertaken in their honor. 

Being there today to hear others speak of Bunia (Nina), remembering all my happy memories with her…the funny stories, her quirks, her love, her kindness, and then one of my favourites…her bone crushing hugs received upon showing up for a visit (as she was overwhelmingly happy to see us) and then again when we left (believing she may not see us again so making sure she gave it her all). 

This is when it struck me.  

YES, we do this for ourselves…but it is not in a selfish or negative way. It truly is an opportunity to say our goodbyes to someone we LOVE. Someone who meant something to us.  THIS is the piece I was missing. 

It struck me when Father George sat back beside Nina and spoke of his recollections: how she was always so welcoming, so cheerful for others, someone who said exactly what she meant and when Father George said “Nina was positively negative” and most of the group at the service laughed, I appreciated the ritual. I too loved that about her. 

I said goodbye to someone I loved today. 

 

Two Additional Words – DoWoo #129/365

images (9)Attended a family meeting this evening with my siblings to talk about our mother’s health. Turns out I realized quite a number of things this evening. Some were observed in the moment and others were upon reflection. Please allow me to share:

  1. shutterstock_67691131-292x300I am still affected by my perception and interaction with my siblings.
  2. I  do not understand where they are coming from.
  3. AND they appear to have no clue where I am coming from.
  4. When I look at them I continue to see any challenges we have had between us in the past.
  5. I do not know how to forgive.

That last one…that’s the doozy!

Walter and I ended up with a HUGE discussion on the importance of forgiveness including the part about whatever you are feeling is totally on you – your responsibility – because no one can make another person feel anything – you can only allow yourself to feel whatever it is you are feeling. I get the whole forgiveness part so I can be free of this negative emotion. I just don’t know HOW to do it.  So I understand it….but I have no clue how to truly put it into reality.  AND this does not appear to be one of those deals you can “fake it till you make it”.

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Walter kept telling me that “it does not exist”.  By recognizing it, you cause it to exist.  If I do not recognize it, give it any power by offering it my concentration, then it does not exist.  So whatever I need to concentrate on – other than that – is good and then it does not exist.

THIS is where I go a wee bit squirrelly.  Logically, I explained to him, whatever THAT is still exists. You’re just telling me to concentrate on something else…but it still exists…I  can’t fake that it does not exist by thinking about something else.  We went round and round in circles until two words changed it all.  He finally said….

It does not exist “for me”.

Whoa! Am I gaining a bit of clarity here? The jury is still out but I may be getting closer. So work with me here…

Since in my reality it does not matter if something exists for someone else…it only matters what exists for me.  AND if I do not acknowledge it in any way – completely. truly. honestly, wholeheartedly have no recognition of its existence…THEN it does not exist “for me”.

OK- So on that note I’m going to call it a night. I will ponder this further right before my sit – the time at night..just before you go to sleep, when your mind is open to new and interesting ways to observe something…and you just allow it to unfold.  Catch you on the flip side tomorrow.

 

“Read to Conquer not…” – DoWoo #125/365

Am going to fess up that there is one particular area I have recently let slide backwards onto the old blueprint big comfy couch. I had made a decision 3 years ago to only read if it were going to move me forward with my dream.  For 2.5 years I stuck to this philosophy and now have let it slide.  The couch IS really comfy!

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(If this picture annoys you as much as it annoyed me to watch when I found it and added here …then it’s a good representation of our old blueprint. Feel free to use it for yourself.)

Walter made the observation this evening and suggested I “read to conquer not escape”. Wow this really hit home. That’s exactly what I was doing…but I had looked at it differently. I knew I was ‘escaping‘ – justifying this (as that blueprint is really good at doing) saying the rest of the time I’m reading for business and I need a break (offset, small voice heard to say “an excuse is an excuse is an excuse”) .  AND when I did to go read the other stuff…the stuff which expands my mind and opens my heart to the pure potentiality of the world within and without…I did not consider it as conquering my dreams…I considered it to be more ‘required‘ reading – like back when we were in school.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Wayne Dyer

I am certainly getting a lot of THIS particular message lately.
What do YOU think that means?

OK – so we had a bit of a situation today. I was having a cyclical-breakdown-hissy-fit (#CBHF), and Walter calmly spoke to me, attempting to get me to snap out of it and finally asked to read me The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success…The Law of Pure Potentiality; Deepak Chopra.

He read. I saw pictures. Pictures of what Deepak’s words meant to me.  I had to jump up and make notes so I could write about my thoughts later. I relaxed and allowed the words to surround me, encouraging comprehension through my visual interpretation. It was magical.

I got out of my funk AND I recognized what ‘reading to conquer’ looks like, feels like, is…compared to reading to escape. There is no comparison just polar differences in the world within and ultimately in the world without.

It appears I made good choices for my counsel…3 of them have already bopped me on the head today!