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Hormones or Age? – DoWoo#150/365

I observed today that when one is focused on getting something done, one can accomplish a lot.  However, when one is not as focused, or possibly experiencing some after effects of the grieving process, then one’s ability to function at their full speed may be affected. 

I remember when I was about half way through my pregnancy,  one of the HR trainers came down to talk to me about the new people we had hired for my team, they spoke to me for about 10 minutes…I was paying attention – truly I was – but then as she was leaving she commented she would send me a note about what we spoke about. She later explained to me that she could see it going right through me – hence why she sent me the note.

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I too found a difference in my ability to retain information. Prior to pregnancy I was one of those people who could remember what someone said and who was in the room from a year ago. I was organized. I was efficient. But once I was pregnant all that seemed to seep out of me…I ended up with notes to remind myself on basically everything. 

I still make lists.  I set reminders. I even have alarms for my reminders. I understood why this was happening when it was hormonal but now….Is this age?  Anyone have an answer to that?  Anyone?

So…back to operating at less than full speed…one of my siblings sent a set of snap shots of posters from the hospice where our mom is currently.  One of them was “The Grieving Person’s Bill of Rights“.  What a timely tool.  A few things which stood out for me. 

beauty girl cryYou have the right to experience your own unique grief. No one else will grieve in exactly the same way you do.  In Scroll IV OG says “None that came before, none that live today, and none that come tomorrow can walk and talk and move and think (and grieve) exactly like me.”

You have the right to feel a multitude of emotions. Confusion, disorientation, fear, guilt and relief are just a few of the emotions you might feel as part of your grief journey.  And You have the right to be tolerant of your physical and emotional limits. Your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you feeling fatigued.  Respect what your body and mind are telling you.

Finally ending with Remember, grief is a process, not an event. Be patient and tolerant with yourself.

Remember back to Kindness week I observed (or was it an opinion?) along with being kind to others, we must remember to be kind to ourselves.  This includes being patient and tolerant with ourselves too.  Maybe this is why I am challenged with being patient and tolerant of others…I’m not patient and tolerant with myself. Hmmm….more things to consider. 

Oy! Positively Negative – DoWoo #148/365

“I give myself permission to say and do what I believe to be true without second guessing and self reassessment.”

F00B362B-7B4B-4D7B-BB3F133348747762Up until today my perspective on funerals has been mostly negative…a bunch of hooey and ceremony…and the person is gone already…what was the point? I vowed none of this traditional crap was going to happen when I’m gone. If you want to party and tell stories great! But other than that, don’t bother. I never understood why people would stand around and cry and talk about missing the person? Why everyone says they are sorry for our loss (yesterday’s DoWoo)? Why we don’t just celebrate their life instead?

I was missing a piece of the puzzle.  

e517c136f17680613c2d60c1271718dcWhat I observed today, and over the last few days, were some interesting rituals we put ourselves through when someone we love dies.  I’m still reflecting and digesting everything. I’m fairly certain it will be different when it is my mom rather than Walters…so this may require a bit more time before everything has been fully assimilated. For the most part though… what I recognized for myself was this is not about them…what we do…it is all for us.  I’m sure we’ve all heard this before…that funerals are for the living – giving us an opportunity to grieve and say goodbye to our loved ones.  But WHY?  

I did not get it until today. 

memory-memorial-quote-life-celebrationfuneral is a ceremony for celebrating, respecting, sanctifying, or remembering the life of a person who has died. Funerary customs comprise the complex of beliefs and practices used by a culture to remember the dead, from interment itself, to various monuments, prayers, and rituals undertaken in their honor. 

Being there today to hear others speak of Bunia (Nina), remembering all my happy memories with her…the funny stories, her quirks, her love, her kindness, and then one of my favourites…her bone crushing hugs received upon showing up for a visit (as she was overwhelmingly happy to see us) and then again when we left (believing she may not see us again so making sure she gave it her all). 

This is when it struck me.  

YES, we do this for ourselves…but it is not in a selfish or negative way. It truly is an opportunity to say our goodbyes to someone we LOVE. Someone who meant something to us.  THIS is the piece I was missing. 

It struck me when Father George sat back beside Nina and spoke of his recollections: how she was always so welcoming, so cheerful for others, someone who said exactly what she meant and when Father George said “Nina was positively negative” and most of the group at the service laughed, I appreciated the ritual. I too loved that about her. 

I said goodbye to someone I loved today. 

 

Double Double Booked – DoWoo #146/365

Yesterday  I double double booked myself for noon today.  Walter reminds me that I tend to double book myself but this…well, I will let you decide….

  1. list_double_bookingsWe signed Gregory up for basketball camp – which finishes at 12 noon – and since Walter was at a business session all day, I needed to be there to pick him up. 
  2. I booked a hair appointment for 11:00 – knowing my hair dresser is usually delayed by at least 15 to 30 minutes – and it takes me 20 minutes to get to the basketball camp. 
  3. Confirmed with someone to have a web call at noon. 
  4. AND someone agreed to come look at my dining room set which is for sale at noon.

Yesterday when I realized all this – I sent a note to the person scheduled for the web call and rescheduled.  Then I text’d the person for the dining room set to confirm whether they could come at 12:30 instead. When I showed up at the hairdresser’s and she told me 10 minutes to wait, I explained I had already washed my hair to minimize time and then explained I needed to be out of the salon by 11:45 at the latest. We were done at 11:40, I picked up Gregory right on time and made it back home at 12:25 before the furniture viewing. 

Part way through this exercise Walter text’d me asking how my day was progressing.  I sent back a note saying I had made a list. 

The great news is I sold the dining room set, the bedroom set, a 4 tiered shelving unit, a piece of artwork and the silverware in a storage box.  

We also managed to squeeze in an errand which required driving downtown and back, going shopping and finding black dress shoes and a jacket for Gregory for Monday, have dinner together as a family, see a movie at the theatre and complete a good chunk of my business reporting required for Monday. 

Do I hear the word “productive”?

Choose What Emotion You Attach – DoWoo #145/365

embrace-your-emotionsIn the Master Key Experience we are taught you are able to choose what emotion / feeling you attach to a thought and THEN you can choose your thoughts. While I know this in theory and I’ve seen inklings of this peeping through our lives since we immersed ourselves in this class, not until today did I really witness it, think it and feel it.

Walter is such an amazing man. That is a true shout out.  We had discussed how we would deal with the situation of either of our parents passing and while we came up with what we anticipated we would do, how we would react…you just never know till you are actually in the situation itself.   This is when your choices become your reality.  He rocked this.  He explained he is sad and recognizes he will miss her. However, he is happy she is no longer in pain and has moved on. The gathering which will happen in a few days time, to honour his mom, is a celebration of her life.  Here! Here!

We explained to Gregory this evening that his grandmother was no longer with us in her body but her spirit was free to move on.  There was a bit more discussion and then we explained it was OK to feel whatever he was feeling.  It’s all part of someone no longer being with us.  But we also explained we choose to remember all the amazing moments we spent together. We encouraged him to feel comfortable in voicing how he was feeling at any time throughout the next few days as he may experience new things and we can help him understand.

sadnessHe said that he was feeling something in his chest but not in his throat or in his tummy like when he is excited to go to school.  Then later he explained he had an all over sad feeling, still in his chest, a bit in his tummy, some in his throat and his face – not tears but dampness.

So…here is my little man who when he started having what may have been anxiety about going to school (not all of the kids are kind) we had encouraged him to label that feeling as excitement.  In referencing this body reaction and feeling and attaching a label to it of something positive rather than negative, he has adopted that understanding.  He was then able to articulate that it was different than other emotions and then when his body changed, he recognized it again.

Now some people tease me about how I try to turn phrases and situations into positive things. While I do, and I would love to encourage our son to have a similar outlook, there is a time and space for everything. And sometimes you have to feel sad in order to more thoroughly appreciate feeling happy.

This is new to us all.  We are making our way through it.  We have chosen to celebrate and rejoice and that feels good. What other option do we have?

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Haanel, Picasso & Minecraft? – DoWoo #142/365

During my read of the Master Keys Week 17 (Charles Haanel) this morning the end quote struck me more than it has previously “Thought is the property of those only who can entertain it.” Ralph Waldo Emerson. 

Stay with me here! 

indy.jpegWe have recently started watching the series The Young Indiana Jones Chronicles.  The show follows a young Indy who experiences adventures around the world, with the current show centered around a young boy about our son’s age.  Adventures are right in line with Greg’s preferences – and as a bonus for us parents, they typically include some form of life lesson for the young viewer to learn from (which is every parent’s joy when watching a show with your impressionable child – right?).

2249290310_895d7943d7_oThe 2nd episode we watched had Indy and his friend (a young Norman Rockwell) traversing the streets of Paris during the period of Degas and Picasso.  A follower of the artist explained Picasso’s style of painting was called “Cubism” where “all form can be broken down into cubes”. Wiki references “In Cubist artwork, objects are analyzed, broken up and reassembled in an abstracted form—instead of depicting objects from one viewpoint, the artist depicts the subject from a multitude of viewpoints to represent the subject in a greater context.”

Pablo Picasso was roaming the streets of Paris during the early 20th century. Charles Haanel published The Master Key System in 1912.  Coincidence?

Master Key 17:32 “This is because the Spirit of a thing is the thing itself, the vital part of it, the real substance. The form is simply the outward manifestation of the spiritual activity within.”

Now, jump a 100 years into our current time and consider what our young men are creating with: Minecraft – a world made up of small squares – cubes – everything is cubes!   And don’t forget everything you are looking at here – on your screen – are made up of pixels – little tiny cubes. 

I wonder…what would Picasso have made of/with Minecraft? 

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“No Comprendo” – DoWoo #141/365

In pondering my observations of and from today, three areas strike me as being interwoven: 

  1. Borromean_Rings_IllusionBe kind to myself – we just wrapped up a week of kindness within the Master Key Experience and one of the themes which kept cropping up at my end was needing to kind to oneself – truly allowing yourself to receive unconditional kindness from yourself and those who wish to offer it, so you may have more of yourself to offer, more kindness to give to those who need it. 
  2. I give myself permission to… – this is the phrase Mark asked us to write down and finish during yesterdays’ Week 17 session.  I wrote down “I give myself permission to say and do what I believe to be true without second guessing and self reassessment.”
  3. Decisiveness – is my virtue I am to concentrate on this week within the Franklin Makeover. Recognizing it in others and myself. 

So…in the rhythm of recognizing the signs of abundance being offered to me…recognizing all interactions are put in front of me to encourage my understanding of something I am to learn or comprehend…when I put these 3 aspects together I get: Be kind to myself by giving myself permission to embrace my decisiveness.  Pretty powerful sentence from where I’m sitting.  

Today I recognized and became frustrated with someone else, based upon my perception they lacked motivation to change their circumstance and preferred to wallow and complain. Interestingly this is the same person who was one of the catalysts which spurned this DoWoo movement of mine.  After all that I have learnt through my realignment journey, I recognize this is a reflection of me to me.  It’s not about her.  She IS doing something about it, AND she is doing the best she can with what she knows and what she has at her disposal.  Anything else is an opinion…which does not belong here. 

Since it’s not her, then I have to ask what am I frustrated with myself about? The answer rings loudly – I am frustrated at my inability to allow myself to be myself without having unrealistic expectations of myself.   Walter has explained for years that I am my hardest critic.  I know this philosophy and recognize that I need to let it go…but when I’m in the middle of it, I find it a challenge to truly embrace that this is possible. 

As of TODAY I decisively give myself permission to be kind to myself and in so doing, I am able to be kinder to others. 

Out of this discussion about this particular person’s complaint, and my “old blueprint” reaction ending with a ‘new blueprint” analysis…came an interesting thought: Walter asked me to consider that once we are in Costa Rica, until we understand Spanish, the locals could be shouting out in a good way or complaining wholeheartedly about something and we won’t be able to comprehend the difference!  

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Time is Irrelevant When Humour Reigns – DoWoo #138/365

images (12)I received some sad news mid this week. The doctor in charge of my mom’s palliative care informed her, and us, she now has a very short time left. The phrase the doctor used is mom’s body is winding down.  So not being hungry, things not tasting good enough to want to eat, being tired and week all the time, and just wanting to sleep, are all signs the body is winding down.  Personally I haven’t heard this phrase but it seemed gentler…kinder, somehow.

marvins sisterUp till now, no matter how poorly my mom felt, she would rally. When she was diagnosed with cancer about 6 years ago at the age of 79, she went through a significant operation, months of chemotherapy and 26 rounds of radiation over a 5 week period – spending her 80th birthday fighting cancer. It was brutal to watch what it did to her.  I remember sharing my thoughts on visualization…recommending she imagine each time she was going through her treatment there was a little guy inside with a laser gun zapping all the cancer cells to dust.  Personally I pictured Marvin the Martian.

Less than a year ago she was told the cancer was back. She was surprised and disappointed as she figured she’d beaten the odds – they had given it a 5 year window – and she had almost reached that point. Her immediate direction to the doctor was to operate and take it out of her. While operating was not considered to be an option, they did try chemotherapy. This was too much for her body to handle and the treatment was stopped.

When the doctor told her a month ago she had months not years left, her comment was “I am going to live longer than that doctor thinks I am, I am going for another oxygen treatment”!  This is a woman who despite all odds continues to fight.

I’m schedule to drop over tomorrow morning.  I’ve been giving this much thought in the 2 days since we were informed. I cannot imagine what my mom is feeling. But I do recognize that this is not for me to be concerned with (remember what I wrote yesterday…accept the things I cannot change). What she feels, thinks, believes, imagines…they are all hers and hers alone. What I CAN offer is what I have always offered my mom – a daughter who tells it the way it is but somehow manages to put a twist of humour in – encouraging laughter whenever possible.

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A Day of Connections – DoWoo# 135/365

Brain Wave Started my day trying a new meditation tool.  It was enough of a pleasant response that I signed up for the 30 day trial. The interesting thing I observed was the “give away” popups and side bars and capture pages….I now understand so much more about how all this digital connections stuff works.  

Was working through a few reports, calling and connecting with people when one gentleman and I just hit it off. He and I had to stop chit chatting and get back to the matter at hand. Wonderful professional with a human element – just my kind of connection. 

im possibleReceived a call back from the person at the Sports Club (yesterday’s post) and she ended up telling me she almost purchased property in Costa Rica 11 years ago and wants to follow us there. She then shared about her dad just being diagnosed with an incurable form of cancer. NOW why do Doctors say that?! I felt compelled to share a few areas of treatments which I have heard about recently with success – immediately emailing her with the details and sending blessings. 

Another Digital Connection from our class created an updated version of my side bar.  I am blessed for having received such kindness. 

ddAND then this evening I received notification of a new follower on Twitter – Digital Divas.  Hey…I thought Mark J coined that phrase for our group of Digital Connection Ladies.  When I saw who was following me, I received a loud smile and immediately followed them back, thanking them for reaching out to me. 

20150113_193742Lastly, I put aside my work and splayed Scrabble with our 9-1/2 year old.  We downloaded an app on my phone which allows you to plug in your idea of a possible word and it tells you whether it is valid and if validated, gives you the definition.  

Turns out we were learning English and Math while enjoying family time.  Walter came home and said we need to do this in Spanish next time.  Are there different tiles for that? 

A fun filled day most definitely.  I am so filled with love and happiness. Blessings to all! 

Ctrl+Alt+Delete – DoWoo #130/365

To carry a bit over from yesterday’s post, Walter and I had quite a long discussion about my family, my interaction with them, how I can proceed to think and be aware and ultimately my choices in all of “this”.  He also pointed out that I have come a long way. 

il_fullxfull.278161051If I have come a long way…I must have been damn fine for him to have fallen in love with me back then!  AND now…well, I must be indescribably over the top appealing. Right?  Laugh with me…this is exactly what I must do in order to put everything into perspective! 

Now onto a serious note.  I’m very grateful Walter loves me.  I remember when we first started to date, I waited a few months before I introduced him to any of my family. When we were on our way back from a dinner with my mom, 2 of my sisters and their husbands…I asked “So…what did you think?”  To which he asked “Can you laugh?”  My response “Yes!”

thumbNow, I’m sure each of us has some unique family dynamics which we believe are out-of-this world dysfunctional.  It truly does make for some interesting conversation when stories are shared.  Bottom line is no matter how interesting our family is…yesterdays observations about forgiveness reign true.  We must concentrate on something else. 

I’m reminded of the question “How come your family knows which buttons to push?” and the answer is “Because they put them there!”

I choose to concentrate on making today count!
I choose to concentrate on being my best me today!
I choose to be whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious & happy!
I choose….

and that is when I started to consider….

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Now…this may be as simple as hitting Ctrl+Alt+Delete. However, we may need to dig a bit deeper to find where those buttons were installed. AND If they were installed in our default programming files it may take a bit of extra knowledge to safely uninstall those memes…those peptides can be rather complicated files…duplicated in various areas to minimize attempts to remove.

 I’m working on it.  How YOU doing? 

Self-Referral – DoWoo #126/365

Yesterday Walter brought me out of my #CBHF through reading to me The Law of Pure Potentiality from Deepak Chopra’s The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success.   I was having a challenging day – concerning myself with what others were thinking, how I would respond, considering permutations out the wing-wang…all with less-than-desirable responses from my body, my mind, significantly reducing my ability to interact on any form of rational level. 

He then read:   ‘The experience of the Self, or “self-referral,” means that our internal reference point is our own spirit, and not the objects of our experience.  The opposite of self-referral is object-referral. In object-referral we are always influenced by objects outside the Self, which include situations, circumstances, people and things.  In object-referral we are constantly seeking the approval of others. Our thinking and our behavior are always in anticipation of a response.  It is therefore fear-based.  In object-referral we also feel an intense need to control things.  We feel an intense need for external power.’

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I recognized the need to step back and reconsider.  I had been operating from a position of object-referral. And by doing so my behavior had become fear based.  So then…how am I to experience self-referral?

‘When you discover your essential nature and know who you really are, in that knowing itself is the ability to fulfill any dream you have, because you are the eternal possibility, the immeasurable potential of all that was, is and will be. The Law of Pure Potentiality could also be called the Law of Unity, because underlying the infinite diversity of life is the unity of one all-pervasive spirit.  There is no separation between you and this field of energy.  The field of pure potentiality is your own Self. And the more you experience your true nature, the closer you are to the field of pure potentiality.’

images (8)I imagined our world and my place in it, of my body and it’s infinitesimally small cells creating my entire being. I had visions of individual blood cells combined together, going with the flow, as blood, bringing oxygen to the other cells of our body…working in unity – our body having access to its pure potentiality.  I can only imagine that blood cells know their essential nature, their purpose.

However, if a cell in our blood decided not to go with the flow, decided they wanted to consider an alternate purpose for their existence, or have a hissy-fit, they would no longer be in harmony with their purpose,  no longer be in unity (going with the flow literally and figuratively) and access to pure potentiality would be lost.

maxresdefaultThis is the same for me. I must relinquish my object-referral, allow myself to go with the flow and embrace my true purpose as an individual in harmony with the whole.

I am “the eternal possibility, the immeasurable potential of all that was, is and will be.”

In embracing my true self I find unity with Self, harmony with all and have unlimited access to my pure potentiality.

Blessings of abundance to you all! 

Bins & Our Counsel – DoWoo #122/365

33-13We are now 1/3 of the way to my promise of 365 daily blogs. I know we celebrated at the 1/4 mark but 1/3 is still a bit of a WOW!  

2014-12-31 18.28.50And in honour of the 1/3 mark, we went out and splurged on bins for our relocation. 38 bins to be exact – with various colours so we can arrange what we take with us and store by the exterior of the bin. Walter was only able to bring home 10 in the mustang. When we went back I did not truly anticipate how to fit the rest into the Nissan but we managed – including Gregory (look for the hand) in the back seat.  He was actually buckled in! 

We have decided on the balance of our Board of Directors – our Mastermind – our Loud Smiles International “invisible counsel”.  So in addition to Walter, myself and Gregory we have:

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Jeanne Cooper:  A very dear friend who passed last year. She was a no BS, straight shooter who loved all 3 of us and is the reason we have our rescue dog Mya.

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Deepak Chopra: A soul who has inspired and continues to inspire both of us in his teachings. The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success is a constant in our daily readings and I am inspired to help our son live these laws to their fullest – teaching others along the way.

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Wayne Dyer: A gentleman whose words have altered how we look at life and ourselves, a man who helped to shape Walter many years ago and has helped us both to create an environment where our son true light can shine.

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Mark Januszewski: A man who is near and dear to us all (Gregory will always say it “en-THU-siasm”), whose Master Key course has inspired me to write and create this vision for change, who keep us both true to ourselves by reminding us what is important, he understands our limitations and revels in our abilities. 

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Ken Varga: A long time mentor and friend of Walter who is a is a self-created, big thinker with a forceful mind, he lives the philosophy of give more get more, and is a huge supporter of our piano bar vision…I know he will be one of our first patrons in Costa Rica (if he can get off that Aruba island long enough!). 

We have the counsel, our mastermind – and we have 38 coloured bins to commence sorting and packing.  Our journey is upon us.  

All good and prosperous things are happening in 2015.

We send blessings of abundance for all you envision for yourself and your family.

Illusion or Reality? – DoWoo #119/365

Was driving back from dropping off homemade turkey soup to my mom today when my mind drifted to thoughts of my siblings. I even entertained (briefly) the idea of calling one up and dropping by.  Years ago I used to spend quite a bit of time with a few of them. However, over the past 3-4 years any interaction has been either non-existent or only as it relates (recently) to the welfare and care of our mother. 

With thoughts of leaving the country for a good portion of the balance of my life, many people have queried how we will deal with the challenge of missing family.  I ponder whether we would miss family or whether we would miss the illusion of what family could be even though it is not. 

old meI recall splitting up with a boyfriend in my late teens and being rather distraught. After quite a bit of reflection (yes…I was always like this) I came to the realization I was missing my perception of who I thought this young man was.  When the rose-coloured glasses were completely removed – and I saw him clearly – I realized the person I was missing did not actually exist other than in my mind.  And since he did not exist – missing him was a useless way to spend my time.

stock-footage-press-out-a-blood-drop-from-a-fingerJust because someone is “blood” does it mean they are “family”? In our society two people choose to be spouses/partners and then, for some of them, they create another being through their joining.  The parents who are not blood are considered family members to the child who is only partially of their blood. Then we have couples who adopt and their children are not blood but they are considered family. Or we have the step fathers and step mothers who are not blood but still family. So when people who are not of the same blood can be called family, it may also be reasonable to deduce the possibility those who are of the same blood could be considered not-family.  

It appears to boil down to two things: choice and our definition of what family is. 

There is a person in my life I consider to be “family by choice”.   This person is someone I can tell all my deepest thoughts to without needing to filter, knowing there is no judgement.  They are someone whom I know I could call on at 2am and they would not only pick up the phone, they would do whatever it takes to help.  This person knows me for all that I am and loves me unconditionally. And I offer the same back.   From my perspective, based upon my perception, this is what family is.  Some may consider this a pretty tall order but if I choose to treat those I consider to be family like this, why would I settle for anything less? 

2 facesThere may be hope between myself and maybe one or two of my siblings. The rest…well, I’ll leave them as having an outside possibility. Since I know God has a sense of humour, I’d be silly to rule anything out.  

Either way, what I’ve decided is to only concern myself with the reality and not any form of illusion.  

Would really like to hear what you think? 

20 Seconds – DoWoo #117/365

j5211-j5178-red-white-christmas-stockings-group400Was putting away the stockings and packing up the leftover Christmas bags, wrapping, ribbons and bows today…considered what we would want to keep and take with us to Costa Rica next year.  What would we absolutely need there? 

It was a bit overwhelming and yet exhilarating.  For a split moment I thought about having a contingency box – stuff which we may need IF we were still here a year from now.  It was only a split second. I told myself there was no place for doubt in my future reality. I chose exhilarating. 

images (2)I am reminded of my brother’s advice. He explained to me when I first got married that “divorce” is a box which sits on the mantel.  It is a reality which exists. However, as long as you leave it on the mantel, never pick it up, never open it, it remains where it is meant to remain. As soon as you start to pick it up and consider it as a possibility you are done for. You may stay married but you will never be as strongly committed as you were prior to picking up that box.  

The same is so true of your dreams and doubt is the box sitting on the mantel in this analogy. Sure, doubt exists but we do not need to give it any power over our dream.  As long as we don’t pick it up, consider it’s possibility it remains out of the equation. 

images (3)We all can see it.  We all believe this is where we are meant to be. There is a little girl out there waiting for us to be strong enough to take the leap so she can be part of our family. How can we disappoint ourselves or her? 

In recalling my brothers advice I also recollected another mantel – in a refurbished pub outside of San Francisco.  The mantel was engraved with Martin Luther Kings words “Fear knocked at the door. Faith answered. There was no one there.”

Tonight was Pizza / Movie night. When we mentioned it to Greg he said “already”! How quickly a week off school can go.  We rented the move “We Bought a Zoo” – a 2011 American family comedy-drama film loosely based on the 2008 memoir of the same name by Benjamin Mee. The film is directed by Cameron Crowe, and stars Matt Damon as Benjamin Mee, who purchases a dilapidated zoo with his family and takes on the challenge of preparing the zoo for its reopening to the public.

Loved the line “You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.” 

Our decision for Costa Rica may have taken 20 seconds, and we recognize the rest takes a bit longer….but no doubts – something great IS coming of it!   I was in the abyss and am now in the transformation of my Hero’s Journey.  What a blast! 

Sandwich Reflection – DoWoo #112/365

If you’ve stuck with me you will have heard reference to Walter and my parent’s recent health concerns.  I’m one of many they call the “sandwich generation” – where we are parents with our children who we are caring for and we are children to our aging parents for whom we care for.   Interestingly as I am the youngest of my siblings – the rest have mostly grown kids or already grandparents with our aging mother.  I wonder…does that make them a triple decker sandwich?

As it was not too long ago I was taking care of our little man, I started pondering the similarities of the newborn to our aged elderly parents.  Please feel free to add to this list in the comment section below:  

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  • eating liquids, slowly moving towards solids
  • having little to no hair, only the rare one has the full head
  • no control of our bodily functions
  • sleeping a lot!
  • spending most of the time laying around in bed while others take care of our needs

We start with a date. We end with a date.  The middle is referred to as our “dash”.  What we do in the middle – between birth and death is who we were in this life.  

In considering this and so many other thoughts of a similar nature today I came across this list by Bronnie Ware – a palliative care nurse who polled her patients responses in their last days in hopes to uncover any regrets so others may learn. 

15e236dTop 10 Regrets Of The Dying

  1. I never pursued my dreams and aspirations.
  2. I worked too much and never made time for my family.
  3. I should have made more time for my friends.
  4. I should have said ‘I love you’ a lot more.
  5. I should have spoken my mind instead of holding back and resenting things.
  6. I should have been the bigger person and resolved my problems.
  7. I wish I had children.
  8. I should have saved more money for my retirement.
  9. Not having the courage to live truthfully.
  10. Happiness is a Choice, I wish I knew that earlier.

Thank goodness for the Master Key Class.  It allows us to address all of the above! Onward my friends. We hold the greatest gift in our hands. Let’s maximize the Experience!!! 

 

Who Are You Being With Your Words – DoWoo #106/365

To be or not to be...is that the question?? I know I’ve used this sentence before but today it is a question inline with how I am feeling.  What AM I “being” today?

I am reminded of the 3 questions Deepak Chopra suggests you ask yourself each day, then sit for (at minimum) 5 minutes with these questions fresh in your mind, then immediately upon completion of your sit write down whatever came to mind. These 3 questions are:

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What do I want for my life?

What do I want from my life today?

In the Master Key Experience we are encouraged to stay away from the word “want” as it just encourages your mind to create more want.  I pondered this for some time and realized the word “want” could be considered reasonable within the context of these questions.  It is when you are answering these questions where you should avoid its use. 

As an example – let’s work with the 2nd question “What do I want for my life?” The answer for me would be: “I want to live in Costa Rica with my family. I want each day to be filled with love and laughter. I want to live a simplistic life where what matters is how we are able to serve others.” If i were to repeat the above answer with the word “want” included – I would in essence be telling my subconscious mind to concentrate on wanting these things – hence creating more want in my life.

gothsensTHIS is where we must remove the action of “want” from our answer and be conscious of the the words we have used to create the vision.  As Haanel tells us words are the “highest form of architecture in civilization“.  So…we remove ‘want’ (or desire, aspire, wish, crave – all the words which are pre-action to the results we aim to obtain) and rearrange the words to paint my vision as it truly exists now.  This way when I repeat my answer I live it now AND my subconscious can get to work on creating my future reality as it already exists in my words.  My answer could now read:

“I live in Costa Rica with my family, thoroughly enjoying days filled with love and laughter, living simply knowing I serve others daily.

It still needs work.  My vision needs to be SMART – Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timed – including feelings which get you pumped!

“On or before January 1st, 2016 I live in Costa Rica with Walter, Gregory and Serafina, ecstatically embracing and thoroughly enjoying each day filled with an abundance of love and laughter. Through our multiple streams of income, amounting to $10,000 per month on or before June 25, 2015, I live comfortably and simply while enthusiastically providing service to others within my community and around the globe.”

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I am blessed to have my vision within me. I am blessed to be able to express my vision. I am blessed knowing vision is reality.  I am being who I am meant to be!  Thank you for allowing me to share. 

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Inter-Connectivity – DoWoo #94/365

one of a kindYesterday I wrote about Synchronicity; about finding out we are so much more inter-connected than we may have realized.  Today we experienced an exceedingly far reaching example of this.  I went to the One of a Kind Show in Toronto for my 26th year in a row.  The show hosts more than 800 artisans from all across Canada.  This year I invited Walter.   Now…I’m going to admit that while I usually hang with a girlfriend for the day, Walter is actually a stand up guy to go shopping with! I am blessed.  And THAT my followers, is an observation! 

slapSo…every year I go to this massive shopping experience with an objective to purchase at least one thing which really slaps me. Being “slapped” is what Walter and I agreed to term the experience of having something yell “buy me!” However, for the last 15 years I’ve also purchased something from this one artisan – Jamie.

I was introduced to Jamie by his friends from Ottawa who were friends with the guy I dated over 13 years ago.   So – stay with me here.  MEOld Boy FriendOttawa CoupleJamie

Today I introduced Walter to Jamie.   While Jamie and I are chatting briefly, Walter is looking at his flyer and notices his last name.  Walter turns to Jamie and asks if he is any relation to _____? 

So here comes the freaky part…. 

the marquisWalter played in a band in the 70s – The Marquis. They played all over Ontario and toured the US Eastern States for 7 years. There were 4 guys including Walter, with the lead singer being the one and only girl – Lynda . Lynda just happens to be Jamie’s sister.  

article-0-0F101FC000000578-674_468x286There are so many ways we may be intertwined. We just need to find the right string to pull to unravel the connection.  

It could also be likened to the philosophy of “6 Degrees of Separation“:  Six degrees of separation is the theory that everyone and everything is six or fewer steps away, by way of introduction, from any other person in the world, so that a chain of “a friend of a friend” statements can be made to connect any two people in a maximum of six steps.

Six_degrees_of_separationBy reading this blog – you now know me.  And therefore you are now 6 degrees away from the Queen of England!

Wait for it!  

MeMy Ex HusbandHis Mother (who was a physiotherapist) Dr. Bett (who trained my mother-in-law to be a physiotherapists and was the physiotherapist to) King GeorgeQueen Elizabeth.   

WooHoo!  So…who do I now know because of you! 

 

 

The Synchronicity of It ALL – DoWoo #93/365

Pieces of my life just keep getting more intertwined. We have people who have come into our lives who we think are in our life for one particular reason and then BAM! you interact in a totally different way and something completely unique starts to unfold.  

137038I recall reading “The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire” by Deepak Chopra. Although it has been over 10 years one of the things I recall him outlining was once you are aware of something – say you just purchased a yellow mustang convertible, you will immediately start seeing other yellow mustang convertibles, yellow cars, convertibles everywhere. Coincidence? Or Synchronicity? 

I reached out to a colleague of mine about our business today. Our two and a half hour conversation included about 10 minutes (towards the later part of the chat) about why I had asked to connect. The rest of the time we went off onto other tangents and ended up inspiring each other in totally different avenues we had not even known about each other until this talk.  Design or Coincidence? 

One of the things I do know how to work with is when something inspiring happens – I run with it. I don’t look at it and ask why or ignore it because it was not what I was originally looking for. I am already envisioning the ideas we discussed and am truly excited to hear the results of my friends action as it unfolds. 

1065303669While searching for a picture of Deepak’s book, I ran across other interesting images. An excerpt from the book about a man’s proposal.  

I can relate my own SynchroDestiny here. The day I met my husband Walter. Both our first time to an event our employers required us to attend. Neither of us wanting to be there after a long day at the office. Seeing each other for the first time across our assigned table. Our emails crossing in cyber-space the next morning. All leading to what we have today!

8578999595_8b08bb55ce_zI also saw a picture which struck me as totally stunning…and this quote:

“The trees must breathe so I can breathe.” Deepak Chopra

How apt is that?  We are all part of the whole. We are all intertwined. We affect each other and are there in order to serve one another. 

080a143dcd603738f89d748966b44c14AND lastly I found instructions on how to allow this universal energy to speak to you – to aid you in revealing and recognizing your direction.

This is how I started to paint at 46 years of age – finding a talent I did not know existed within me.  Imagine what else is within which I have not unlocked?

What do YOU have within you which is just waiting to be revealed?  

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I thank you for stopping by and allowing me to share in this journey. It has certainly been an interesting roller coaster of a ride. I look forward to the balance of twists and turns. I’m all buckled in and have my two men beside me.

What more could one woman ask for?

Enjoy your day and may it be filled with an abundance of blessings. Just remember they may not look exactly like what you expected. Cheers!

 

What do we do with Time? – DoWoo #86/365

logo_thai_room_vaughanSpent this evening with an absolutely fantastic group of people. People with vision. People with faith. People with purpose. People with the ability to help others help themselves. What a GREAT way to spend my time!

Whoa…Wait a sec…What is it about that phrase which makes me take pause?  Had not thought about it till now…not till I typed it in the first paragraph.  Why DO we consider time to be “spent”? 

thumbnail_1364296452The definitions of “spend” mostly include reference to money being paid out or used.  However, the Merriam Webster version (online) does include “to allow (time) to pass in a particular place or while doing a particular activity”

Interestingly though the same Merriam Webster defines the past tense of spend – “spent” to be “used up; exhausted of active or required components or qualities often for a particular purpose; drained of energy or effectiveness”.

Is this what we do with time? 

gallery_SPENDING TIME WITH FAMILY-GALLERY3Spend it – meaning to “allow it to pass” – Personally,  I embraced it and used it, enjoyed it and reveled in it.  How is this “allowing it to pass”? 

Spent it – meaning to “use it up or exhaust it” – Personally, I have it here with me now as I can recall it, feel it, learn from it and most of all grow as a human being because of it. So…How is this “using it up or exhausting it”?

What do you think?  

 

Effort In = Results Out – DoWoo # 83/365

Was speaking with a young lady today about our network marketing business. While I did my best not to have an opinion I did stray to what Walter assured me was coaching.  Whew.    

codependence 5We were speaking about people requiring too much of us – in that we coach and give and be-there for them when they start out on our team. But then some of these people become either dependent on us or demanding of us. When this has happened to me, I’ve gotten frustrated and have had to walk away from the situation in order to remain in any semblance of a positive productive space.  However, I’ve ended up leaving a partner without my support and feel less than stellar for having done so.  This is not who I wish to ‘be’.  

quote-if-you-put-in-time-effort-you-will-see-the-results-474x550Now – Imagine sitting down with your new partner, before they sign, with an outline of the recommended steps (whatever your business system is) to maximize the results of their new business. Operative word here is their business!  And we explain that the amount of effort they put in will typically result in a similar amount of return financially.  So even if someone has already coached their new recruit through the “Ink is Still Drying” skills from Mark J, having a list of the steps it is recommend for them to take to maximize their particular compensation allows you the opportunity to discuss and fully understand what your new person is willing to do. Setting expectations for both you and them. 

The benefits of network marketing (as compared to the corporate world) is an individual’s personal efforts (as long as they are productive efforts) typically yields reciprocal results as long as they stay the course and follow whatever system is in place.  However, if there are 10 items on the list and your new partner is only willing to do 2 out of 10, then they should be coached that their potential results may be a similar % of the potential income available and/or take much longer to reach certain financial positions.  

c790dcb90d3bc6e6_148350975.previewAn aside: Many may consider network marketing it is ultimately about leverage but unless you can reach a level yourself – how can you teach others to reach a similar level? To teach others to reach higher levels? To have a team who will build teams without you? We have to start somewhere! Why not set all the expectations up front.  We can control only what we do. We cannot control what they do.   They need to understand this as much as we do.  

This got me to thinking about the Master Key Experience:  Mark comments this is not a buffet where you can pick and choose what you are wiling to do.  If there are 10 things requested of you in the class – be it honour or tangible requirements – and you choose only to do a few…well then the results you can expect are either going to be less than full or take a much longer time to see.  

Effort In has a direct correlation to the Results Out

bc416f71add7798a963af454273179f1Is this not the same law which comes into play with what we feed our body? What we put into our mind? How we treat others? How we deal with life on a daily or moment by moment basis? 

So if we want our full blown future realty – everything we imagine our life to be – our hopes our dream – we need to give it our all.  As Mark says – we all quit.  Either we quit doing it all together or we quit doing it less than 100%.  

Which one are you? 

Body Talk – DoWoo #71/365

mzi.xakwfrqkWas chatting with someone today about their future reality – talking about envisioning what ‘feels’ good to them – choosing based upon how your body reacts.  I suggested she read through what she had drafted until something made her body go ‘wooo’.  She read through all her notes but said nothing went ‘wooo’. So I read what she wrote and my body went ‘wooo’ at certain spots.  I shared my reactions. She felt in tune with my observations. 

While she may not be in tune (as yet) with her body talking – I know my body talks to me. AND I also know when I have listened, things align. When I ignore these feelings, I usually end up saying “I told you so” to myself. 

Listening-dog_innolectinc.com_We know thoughts are energy.  So if thoughts are energy, when we think something good, it should feel good. When we think of something negative, it most likely feels ‘not so good’.  We just need to recognize what these feelings feel like.  Sometimes they can be quite quick and minor and other times they are prolonged and loud.  Either way it is your entire body telling you which way to go with whatever is going on. 

We’ve been working with our 9 year old to help him recognize this within himself. Imagine embracing this ability early on in life? The one thing he seems to have grasped so far is that when he is not truthful, his throat hurts.  VERY cool! 

Are you listening??