Observing without offering your opinion is something we were asked to do in the Master Key class. From what I have read and discussed this experience had varying effects on the hundreds of class members.
I recognized this is an area where I wish to become more proficient. Hence this 365 day journey. In anything we do, the more we look for it, the more we recognize it, the more we embrace it within ourselves.
- an act or instance of noticing or perceiving
- an act or instance of regarding attentively or watching
- an act or instance of viewing or noting a fact or occurrence for some scientific or other special purpose.
- a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty
- a personal view, attitude, or appraisal
- the formal expression of a professional judgment
How does one observe without having opinions on what they observe? Based upon my DoWoos thus far, allow me to provide a few samples of what this may look like on both sides.
An observation: The PSW was diligent in making sure soiled linen was placed away from anything else, not on the floor and taking up the least amount of space. Folded laundry does takes up less space.
An opinion: What king of support person would take the time to fold soiled linen and not just put it in the washer right away? And put it in a clean laundry basket? Eww!
An observation: The owner of this shop is trusting.
An opinion: The owner of this shop has decided to trust a complete stranger. Is he for real? Did I get taken to another planet?
An observation: A child’s perspective is pure wonder – appreciate and allow.
An opinion: How silly. Fireworks are completely different. I’ll explain the facts and then he’ll know the difference – just like the rest of us.
It’s a fine line between taking the information our brain processes as to what we see and then sharing that information through the filter of our personal perception and experiences.
I had someone say to me…”I have a right to my opinion.” Absolutely! Everyone has a right to their opinion – it’s sharing that opinion with others which can lead to some interesting challenges. Especially if the other person did not ask for your opinion. AND then if you are able to keep your opinion to yourself, are those thoughts of any benefit to you?
Why not allow ourselves to just observe – recognize facts – stop the information from going through our personal opinion filter. Once we learn how to do this ‘no opinion’ part of the process, whatever we observed may actually look different.
I will continue to ponder on this and do my best to DoWoo!
Carolynn Sokil @IDoWooDoU
If you change how you look at things – the things you look at change!