Are You Picking Up? – DoWoo #73/365

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A friend used a unique (to me) expression this evening – I grabbed a piece of paper during our discussion and quickly wrote it down. I believe I have heard it before (possibly from her) but it’s not something I’ve heard often.  

“I’m picking up what you are putting down.”            

It’s all about communication!  What an amazing thing we humans do. We share thoughts and ideas and…and…wait for it….opinions!  Sharing however is only one component of effective communication.   And what other kind does one want?  It’s about that “picking up/putting down” phrase and then much more so.  

I love my husband’s take on this.  He explained many years ago that communication was a 4 step process. 

  1. Sharing Information 
  2. Accepting information
  3. Understanding information
  4. Acting upon information

From my perspective of observations – many people share (putting down), most will accept (picking up), some will go so far as to ensure they understand (more in-depth picking up) but then the question is how many actually act upon it?  If we share and we receive and we understand but do nothing – did we truly communicate? 

yes-no-buttonsPlease feel free to share your opinion!

I appreciate you stopping by and considering whether what I have to say resonates with you or not.  I am blessed to be here!  Thank you.

Carolynn Sokil

 

We Live in the Mountains – DoWoo #72/365

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Was chatting with someone today who mentioned a family member was not fully supportive of their vision of their future reality – their Definite Major Purpose realized.   They did not understand the Master Key course.   I empathized and told a story of when I read one of the scrolls from Og’s book to my mom; she asked me how long I’d belonged to this cult.  I laughed then and I laughed this evening in recollection. 

imagesIn considering this…I asked myself – what advise would I give for someone whose family did not fully support (if I were an expert and they asked me for my opinion)? I would suggest they consider whether they were going to allow this person’s opinion to have an impact on their Definite Major Purpose – their future? 

Now – I didn’t give this advise nor am I giving it now. This is more about me realizing that while I am fully cognizant of what I should do – I also admit (a bit sheepishly) that I don’t always do what I should do. So – am I allowing my perceived version of others opinions or possibly my overactive negative slant on things – to take over?  Why not? Is it fear? Laziness? Anxiousness? Feelings of being unworthy? Risk of failing?

Does that matter either? 

No! It does not matter what others think – their opinion do not matter – and it does not matter what I ‘over-think’ it to be – that negative opinion does not matter either.  

It’s not about what I’m thinking; it’s about who I am being.  

And if I am being true to who I am meant to be.  Then any vision I have which feels good must be good.  I would recommend each of us fully embrace our vision and allow others to choose their course.  

Now imagine if when you had that idea or a vision or a feeling of your future and your family rooted for you no matter the vision? How would that feel? Greg called out to us while he was getting dressed for bed: “Remember how I drew our house in Costa Rica? I think we live in the mountains.”  He is creating his own vision along with ours,   All we do is ask for more detail and  allow his story to unfold. Way cool! Loads of fun too! 

Body Talk – DoWoo #71/365

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mzi.xakwfrqkWas chatting with someone today about their future reality – talking about envisioning what ‘feels’ good to them – choosing based upon how your body reacts.  I suggested she read through what she had drafted until something made her body go ‘wooo’.  She read through all her notes but said nothing went ‘wooo’. So I read what she wrote and my body went ‘wooo’ at certain spots.  I shared my reactions. She felt in tune with my observations. 

While she may not be in tune (as yet) with her body talking – I know my body talks to me. AND I also know when I have listened, things align. When I ignore these feelings, I usually end up saying “I told you so” to myself. 

Listening-dog_innolectinc.com_We know thoughts are energy.  So if thoughts are energy, when we think something good, it should feel good. When we think of something negative, it most likely feels ‘not so good’.  We just need to recognize what these feelings feel like.  Sometimes they can be quite quick and minor and other times they are prolonged and loud.  Either way it is your entire body telling you which way to go with whatever is going on. 

We’ve been working with our 9 year old to help him recognize this within himself. Imagine embracing this ability early on in life? The one thing he seems to have grasped so far is that when he is not truthful, his throat hurts.  VERY cool! 

Are you listening?? 

No matter what… – DoWoo #70/365

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callReceived a call this evening from a good friend of mine who resides in Scotland. She and I met in 2,000 when we worked for a small division of a global corporation. We bonded a year later when we both worked out of our London office.  Debbie is a wonderful soul who is on a journey of discovery (a hero’s journey I now recognize it to be) and I have the pleasure of calling her my friend – a sister by choice. 

We spoke for almost 90 minutes. The depth of her teachings leave me in awe.  Tonight we spoke of many things but the repetitive message I heard was one of learning to be calm in the midst of chaos.  This is something I get glimpses of. Debbie embodies this teaching and admits one may always continue to try…but ultimately this is ones goal – to be totally calm, at one with the Universal Source, no matter what hell is going on around them.  

Greenhouse_by_Joost_Imagine_800x332being all that we can be, as our source intended us to be, allowing everything to be as it is, live truly in the NOW without concern for future moments or consideration for past moments? How wondrous would it be to have no fear, worry, stress, anxiousness, anger….? If we live in the NOW and allow – we would not know these things.  The “no matter what” would have zero effect on us. 

As Mark J mentioned on tonight’s webcast, we would be in the ZONE: Zero Out Negative Effect. zone_4 (1)

Out of the mouths of… – DoWoo #69/365

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I’m amazed every day as a parent.  I truly wish everyone could experience the joy we feel each day being able to be there for our little man.  When one thinks of their “dharma” – their purpose in life – I believe many of us think it to be some thing we do ourselves which leaves an impact on others. Sometimes though, upon reflection, I can believe MY purpose may be to be Gregory’s mom – so that what we may be able to guide him to be, will allow him to have an impact on our humanity in some way. Moments after birth the nurse turned to us, as she held our son up for me to get a good look at him, and said “He is an old soul”.  I embraced this then and still do. He teaches me…us…so much. 

treeToday during our evening chill session I asked Greg if he was enjoying life? Yes. Was he happy? Yes. What makes him happy? “Mya, you and Daddy.”  Less than a minute later he said that he was happy for his grandparents too: Dido & Bunia…Nana & Grampie. Because they met, they had us. And then we met and had him. 

My sister commented to me a few days ago that he will eventually rebel…as all kids get to a point where they rebel against all that we’ve taught them as parents. Her hope for me was that I would be strong enough to allow him to rebel and be himself.  

I struggle with this concept. He is a good kid.  We’ve taught him to understand there are always more than one perspective to consider and ll actions have a cause and effect.  We’ve taught him to negotiate and tolerate, be strong and compassionate, focus and hang out, to express himself knowing we are listening. If this results in a child who wishes to ‘rebel’, possibly due to whatever stage in his life he happens to be in, we will continue to be who we are now. We will allow. For now though…this is my now.  And it’s all that I imagined it to be…and then some! 

dont-count-every-hour-in-the-day-make-every-hour-in-the-day-count-2Before I had a child I imagined being a parent and envisioned my motto being “Lots of Love and Rules” .  Then for a time I thought I would not be able to be a parent and so convinced myself it was best: I may not have been able to be selfless enough.  When Walter and I knew we were pregnant….we agreed the only other rule was to “Make Every Day Count”. 

I enjoy today. I see our future. Our son is exactly who he is meant to be. I see our future reality. I feel the peace, the love, the joy and am overwhelmed by our blessings.  If any part of my dharma includes me being Greg’s mom, I say….as loudly as I can for all to hear…Thank you! Gracias! Merci Beaucoup! Mahalo! 

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Which comes first: Faith or Belief? – DoWoo# 68/365

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I  recognize my future reality needs to be embraced now.  How else are we to shift the framework of our space in this form other than to alter our thoughts, allowing them to take hold and manifest our vision once we truly believe?  How are we to believe that that which we envision is to become a reality? We must have faith. How does one have faith? We must believe. 

BeliefandFaithFaith and belief. Which comes first? Are they one and the same? Does it really matter?

Mark J teaches us when we combine a thought with belief and feeling, we can alter our reality. Which one do we concentrate on first? In drafting my DMP (Definite Major Purpose), I started with thoughts and then decided whether I believed them to be true and then I added feeling to them. 

Why not start with feeling? If you find a feeling within yourself, something which resonates on a frequency all its own. Identify what that feeling is – describe it.  Then allow the feeling and its description to show you the vision – belief will be entwined already. This vision is my truth.  

Tonight I concentrated on the feeling which runs through me when I listen to a thunderstorms in the distance with rain forest creatures commenting in tune.  The feelings bring visions of living in the rain forest, waking up to the sounds – painting with the sounds in the background – enjoying quiet reflective time with my family – always the sounds in the background.  I am at home in this vision. This vision is my truth. 

Embrace Song Again – DoWoo #67/365

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Generosity was experienced today.  I was given a last minute ticket to go see Sarah Mclachlan this evening.  I had just under 2 hours to wrap up work, eat, dress and leave for downtown. When I was in my seat at Massey Hall, it seemed a bit surreal.  A few hours ago I had no idea I would be doing what I was doing. I paused and asked myself: What is this meant to tell me?  

See I’ve come to realize that we truly need to pay attention.  Messages from the universe, our source, are all around us – telling us what we need to know. We just need to listen.  They are not always blatant and straight forward – sometimes they are unobtrusive.  

Without an answer coming to mind,  I sat back and allowed the ambiance to float through me. Enjoy the moment. 

The first song Sarah sang was called “In Your Shoes”.  I had not heard her new CD therefore did not know any of her new songs.  The lyrics to this one start with “You turn the radio on / Play your favorite song and cry (Cry)” and end with “You turn the radio on / Play your favorite song and sing out so loud“. 

I used to love singing along to Sarah, Nora Jones, Beth Orton and a few others. When did I stop? When did I loose touch with listening and singing.  It used to “pump me up”, feel empowered. Artists Create.  Others identify with their work.  Something resonates within them.  They “Feel” something.  Whatever they were meant to feel. And they now know someone else out there understands their situation – because here is a song which tells them what they need to hear.  

The song talks about “Time for you to walk out walk in your own shoes / Lay down your footprints wherever you choose / Say what’s on your mind with pride / ‘Cause you are your own woman.”

I embrace song again.  I am grateful for the person who shared the ticket.  I am grateful for Sarah Mclachlan with her amazing dharma. I am stepping out! Look out world…Here I come! This is most definitely an observation.  I will not muddy the waters by trying to identify and having an opinion.  I allow and embrace myself again.  Thank you.

Sharing is Caring – DoWoo #66/365

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Last year Gregory won the “Caring” Award. 9 of the 10 months they provide an award for the month – a virtue which has been exemplified. 1 per class, out of 20-25 children, receive the award.  The award receipient’s photo and a copy of their certififcate get posted in the hall for the entire next month. Since his award we have heard the phrase “Sharing is Caring” many times. 

2014-11-05 19.29.53Tonight was Gregory’s first official evening to join the Cub Scouts.  He had gone 2 prior weeks to check it out. He said he wanted to join and he wanted to join prior to this coming weekend so he could march in the Remembrance Day Parade.  

thbramaleacrestcoaGreg was so serious. When they told them he had to stand at attention – he did.  

He then received his necker, and his first 3 badges (to be sewn on his shirt). The tag line on his scouting badge reads “Working & Sharing Together”.  Sharing is Caring. He’s in the right place – doing exactly what he wants to do.  Growing up is making choices.  

Reason to go to University? – DoWoo #65/365

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Woo Hoo!  18% completed with only 300 more to go! Can you believe it?  I am so in the groove! Also doing a happy dance because we ordered our holiday card already – so we will have it way before the season is in swing.  We usually get this out the 3rd week in December and am  now looking forward to getting it out before December!

540_293_resize_20130401_8d14a9551fd0cfee60a9ae4d71b34bc3_jpgWalter and I went to a seminar today which was quite interesting to observe.  Much of what we heard was in alignment with what we are doing in the Master Key. Allow me to share a few takeaways.

When you adopt a “Wealth” mindset – Failure & Mistakes are now considered Research & Development.

And the main speaker explained, after he shared that he and his wife of over 30 years had 10 children:  “My kids go to university not to learn how to get a job but to learn how to socialize with the people who will work for them.”  Whoa!

What do you think?  

 

Cover Story – DoWoo #64/365

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Sitting around the dinner table tonight when Gregory asked me if I had ever DoWoo’d about “Don’t trust a book by it’s cover.”?   As I have been doing a lot lately I paused thinking…”Where did that come from?’  I asked him whether he knew what it meant. tumblr_mdxyimPhsA1rvirmqo1_500

“When a book is older and may be dusty, you should not think it’s just old and dirty, you need to look inside.  It may have really great stories. It’s what’s inside that counts.”   I then shared “Don’t judge a book by it’s cover.” was also a metaphor.  We explained the meaning of metaphor and judge in order to bring this meaning to a semblance of understanding. 

Greg and I were doing our evening read. A time for cuddle and independent reading with my son is a great way to wind down especially the time we get to chat about his day, his thoughts and his ideas.     

I realized that Gregory had used the verbiage of “trust” where as the original sentence included “judge”.  Gregory’s verbiage was slightly more “positive” than the original.  I explained my thoughts to him.  He turned to me and said – “Only a little bit positive because both used the word ‘don’t’.” 

Thoughts?  

How fast do thoughts seek expression? – DoWoo #63/365

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Within our MK Blue Print Builder it reads: “…ANY desire that I persistently hold in my mind seeks expression through a practical means of obtaining the object back of it…”

Walter treated us to a new recipe for dinner tonight – a mushroom and quinoa mixture.  While we are reasonable about healthy eating, are not either one extreme or the other, we are not as good as we would like to be.  Hence, branching out using quinoa.   

It was good. Not totally what we are used to – but that’s the point – right?  We were discussing it as we would down our day chatting when Walter mentioned quinoa could stay in the fridge for up to 7 days.  Why not see if we could cook it in a rice cooker so using it could be faster and possibly more versatile? 

Walter walked over to his computer and typed in Google Search “Can you coo…..” and low and behold the most popular options appeared before the question was complete. The #1 being….quinoaSo, how long do YOU think it takes for thoughts to seek expression? Or at least provide you the question with answers before you have typed in your full thought! LOL yellow_happy

We were calling it a night when I walked past the office into our room. I turned to Walter and suggested he “Look out in the hallway and see all the stuff that is gone”.  Yesterday we pulled everything out of the entire office, other than the main furniture, and it had taken temporary landed status in our main upper hallway.  Today we cleaned, rearranged, restructured, sorted, organized, etc.  Within a day we accomplished so much.  Once we set our mind to the final outcome – everything else just became a moving treadmill of action.  This is the Master Key Experience.  Mahalo Mark & Davene! 

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Love the Literal – DoWoo #62/365

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We were spending some family time together last evening when Greg piped up…. “When you have 2 roads to choose from, you should take the one on the right….because it is the ‘right’ road.”  One of the things I love about our kid is how literal he is.  It makes for some interesting conversations.

StoryI recall when he was about 2-1/2 or 3. We were walking down our block. He had picked up a stick and was doing what boys typically do, dragging it, banging it, swinging it…and it broke in 1/2.   He was distraught!

I took his stick and said let’s make this fun. My motto is to make learning fun and everything can be an opportunity to learn.

I broke each 1/2 stick into 1/2 again leaving 4 fairly equally sized pieces.  I lined them up and said, “OK – Greg, let’s count them.”  He counted them while pointing to them “1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8” and looked up at me.  He had counted them both ways – therefore twice. I said “You counted them twice Greg. Only count them once.”  He looked down at the sticks and said “1” and looked back up at me with an expectant smile.

Who is teaching whom here?

“Without Opinion” – DoWoo #61/365

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We are now at the stage in the Master Key Experience where the class members are asked to refrain for having an opinion on anything (unless they are asked and they are an expert on the subject). This is something I consciously worked on during the 2 week stint we were initially requested to refrain within. I was however somewhat lax in my retention of this perspective. Hence the 365 day blog.  Keeping this matter forefront in my daily life for a year! 

Walter looked at me today and said it must be a challenge to have a job which requires you to provide an opinion all day long.  I am a relocation consultant and summarize details on specific real estate matters. 

2013-06-13-no-opinion-zoneI got to thinking…must I have an opinion in order to do what I do? I’m thinking… NOT.  I do need to have significant depth of knowledge in order to inquire further on the detail provided. I do need the ability to disseminate the information gathered and prepare it in a way which is specific, measurable and supported. I do need skill to gather the information.  However, I do not need to have an opinion. 

I will never be able to look at what I do in the same way again.  I am a consultant.  I do not offer an opinion, I offer details with supporting documentation after having reviewed the available angels for all the pertinent data.  What my client does with that information is an opinion! 

Whoo Hooo!!  I Do Woo! Do You? 

“Time Enough for Love” – DoWoo #60/365

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Recently recalled a book read when I was in my late teens. A book I re-read at least 4 more times after that.  “Time Enough for Love“ is written by Robert Heinlein.  Now, I wasn’t into science fiction – finding most authors of this genre to be too fanciful to entertain me. How could I enjoy something if I could not imagine it as a possible reality?  At least that was my limiting thinking back then.   

Robert A. Heinlein_1973_Time Enough For LoveI found Heinlein’s work fascinating.  It always seemed plausible. Even when it was “out there” somehow he made it seem to be reasonably, realistically, plausible.  This particular work, the first one of his novels I read, was about Lazarus Long. Born in 1912.  3rd generation in a wealthy man’s experiment to extend life by encouraging those with a history of long life to marry and procreate with those of a similar history of long life.  The theory to breed longer life genetically. 

It is 2,300 years later. Lazarus has gone back to his home planet to die.   He’s done. He has no further desire to do anything – especially again.  Nothing is new and he’s tired.  He is found close to death when, without his consent, he is partially rejuvenated.  His progeny want him to share his wisdom before he dies. He is the oldest person known being somehow related to the majority of many worlds population. 

Lazarus agrees to complete his rejuvenation if they can imagine something new – something he has never done before.  Then and only then will he agree to extend his life again. 

IMAGINE…being in a position where you have done everything…and mostly likely some things more than, once.  IMAGINE seeing it all.  Tasting it all.  Feeling it all.  Doing it all. Being it all.

How long would it take us?

Do you think 2,300 years would suffice?

If that is the case, do you really think someone who may live around 100 years (if we are lucky) should be spending our precious time being anything other than what we put here to be?   Sound like a good reason to embrace your future reality – your definite major purpose in life – now??

Would love to hear YOUR thoughts!

Steve – DoWoo #59/365

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2014-11-16 10.24.23Today was a first.  Gregory went to a Halloween party at Scouts dressed in a costume we made: Steve aka “Minecraft Steve” or “The Player“.   I don’t understand the game but if he meets a new person, one of the first questions asked (to qualify the person as a potential friend) is whether they play Minecraft.  

So – we put it together – pixels and all.   I’ve put together costumes for myself or Walter but never “made” something for our son – he’s always worn purchased costumes. So this was an interesting ride to go on with him.   We all ended up working on it and it was a huge hit.  

Halloween is still one of my all time favourite events throughout the year.  AND I observe that our son appears to have picked up the torch.  

YEAH!!! 

“No Comment” – DoWoo #58/365

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16977964_400x4001OK – today was a day filled with a multitude of opinions and reactions and frustrations.  While I have the best of intentions for this realignment, today was not what I would consider a step forward.  On the bright side though I’ve come a long way and a slight slip (as it did today) just solidifies the desire to embrace this process more.  

I regroup.  I take a deep breath in and allow it to escape slowly. 

Tomorrow I move forward again.  It’s not always an easy task after a slip but just like those who choose to never drink again….it’s one day, one hour, one moment at a time.  I embrace this realignment.  Thank you for being there for me! 

Door #1 or Door #2 – DoWoo #57/365

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I observe that jet lag combined with a “job” leads to less than positive feelings. However, I also observe that jet lag combined with the excitement of learning and growth to remove the “job” from the equation leads to very positive results.

101_doors-desertTherefore what should one concentrate on?

Do we choose Door #1 or Door #2?

Without actually stating a formal opinion I observe: In order to obtain the most positive results, assuming that is the goal, the most optimal choice would be the later. What do you think?

Selfie Taking Pause – DoWoo #56/365

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These few days have been a time of firsts.  First time going away on business for my new MLM. Fist time to be in the immediate presence of so many people of like mind and teachings (outside of training). First time spending significant time (3.5 continuous days) with a group of people who are not immediate related. First time to consciously take time to listen to others.

Whoa….that last one is a biggie for me – something I wish to truly improve. Upon reflection I recognize I did not do as well with this as I had thought.  Better than I would have before but not as good as I had wanted to.  I had not been as consciously aware enough. You need to be “in the moment” aware in order to benefit from the full impact of each moment.

I L.O.V.E – LOVE it – when the Universe re-arranges multiple aspects to point out a particular lesson we are in the midst of needing to learn  RIGHT NOW!

OK – stay with me here for a moment.

I have a picture in my mind of who I am.  Who I truly am BEING in this world, in my specific period of time – my life.  One of the aspects I need to learn is to be is more aware.  Be in the moment. Then to recognize the signs being shared by the Universe to drill the message home. I was personally present on Saturday to hear John Maxwell speaking on 3 laws within his book “15 Invaluable Laws of Growth”.  The 3rd being the one which resonated most.

After sleeping off my travel I sat down to write my DoWoo.  I opened my phone reader to John Maxwell. and it was left where it was last read – within the chapter on Reflection.  This section outlines the Power of Pausing

20141025_130710I got to thinking….

  • In order to grow one must learn
  • To learn one must adjust
  • Adjustment results from pausing
  • One needs to pause in order to reflect
  • Reflection requires being aware
  • Awareness is required in the moment.

Awareness. Reflection. Pausing. Adjusting. Learning. Growth.

I take pause.

My new life begins, as a new me, being more aware.  That same day I heard John Maxwell, I took my very first “selfie” at Long Beach, CA.

AND so my new life begins.

Very Well Done – DoWoo #55/365

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Very Well DoneA 4 day whirlwind in Los Angeles – a trip which has shifted my perspective on what I know is important to me. The great news is that it was an amazing 4 days. The not so great news is that I am too tired to fully share my views today. If I was food right now – I’d be “very well done”. Almost wish I still drank coffee! More details tomorrow. Blessings to all.

Preference versus Priority – DoWoo #54/365

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q2Was at the training event today soaking up the information being shared.  One of the speakers commented that we need to ask ourselves whether what we are about to do is a preference or a priority?  Is our dream – our definite major purpose – going to be aided by our actions or not?  Is this action feeding temporary satisfaction or is it supportive of long term gain?

Today I listened.  Today I absorbed.  Today I learned.  All of these actions were supportive of my long term gain.    This is certainly a great space to be in.   I am grateful for this space.